Comments on: Persistent Dowry demands http://togetherwebond.wordpress.com/2006/10/04/persistent-dowry-demands/ You are not alone We are there and therefore Together we Bond Thu, 16 Apr 2009 14:03:59 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: shaunik http://togetherwebond.wordpress.com/2006/10/04/persistent-dowry-demands/#comment-443 shaunik Wed, 13 Dec 2006 18:35:10 +0000 http://togetherwebond.wordpress.com/2006/10/04/persistent-dowry-demands/#comment-443 I recently noticed that people of Indian origing (Men) have started a sustained campaign against the dowry act and its related sections in IPC law - stating that they are being misused by women. I strongly object this. Dowry act is the only tool against money-minded husbands and women-beaters in our society. If Infact if anthing, the law has done very little to prevent more dowry-related deaths of innocent women in India. True, there might be some cases that are not totally related to dowry, but it is also true that there cannot be laws for all the abuses that these so-called men shower on the happless women. Can there be a section in IPC against mental and verbal abuse? Can there be a section in IPC against physical abuse? Can there be a section in IPC against sexual abuse? No! All these have been bundeled into on law - the exisintg and the new Dowry law. This is a boon for women who want to fight back against the abusing husbands and their families. According to the Indian Gov statistic, in most of the cases its not only the husband but also his family members who are directly related to the break up of marriages and abuses on the wife. So Lets all support this wonderful cause and the Dowry LAW. I recently noticed that people of Indian origing (Men) have started a sustained campaign against the dowry act and its related sections in IPC law – stating that they are being misused by women. I strongly object this. Dowry act is the only tool against money-minded husbands and women-beaters in our society. If Infact if anthing, the law has done very little to prevent more dowry-related deaths of innocent women in India.

True, there might be some cases that are not totally related to dowry, but it is also true that there cannot be laws for all the abuses that these so-called men shower on the happless women.

Can there be a section in IPC against mental and verbal abuse?
Can there be a section in IPC against physical abuse?
Can there be a section in IPC against sexual abuse?

No! All these have been bundeled into on law – the exisintg and the new Dowry law. This is a boon for women who want to fight back against the abusing husbands and their families. According to the Indian Gov statistic, in most of the cases its not only the husband but also his family members who are directly related to the break up of marriages and abuses on the wife.

So Lets all support this wonderful cause and the Dowry LAW.

]]> By: Swarup Sarkar http://togetherwebond.wordpress.com/2006/10/04/persistent-dowry-demands/#comment-396 Swarup Sarkar Sat, 09 Dec 2006 09:08:38 +0000 http://togetherwebond.wordpress.com/2006/10/04/persistent-dowry-demands/#comment-396 ( sexually deprived rants will not be put up) ( sexually deprived rants will not be put up)

]]> By: Ranjana http://togetherwebond.wordpress.com/2006/10/04/persistent-dowry-demands/#comment-91 Ranjana Sun, 22 Oct 2006 19:42:38 +0000 http://togetherwebond.wordpress.com/2006/10/04/persistent-dowry-demands/#comment-91 Swati (and all the other names you are taking) I am your sister inlaw who you harrasssed for dowry and now you come on this website to cry your crocodile tears. You got your brother married to me only coz you were after my parents money. It is a fact that whole world knows what kind of sinful relationship you have with your brother. It is YOUR INTERFERENCE that today you all are criminals in fornt of Indian LAw. Have the guts then come out in the open Swati (and all the other names you are taking)

I am your sister inlaw who you harrasssed for dowry and now you come on this website to cry your crocodile tears.

You got your brother married to me only coz you were after my parents money.

It is a fact that whole world knows what kind of sinful relationship you have with your brother.

It is YOUR INTERFERENCE that today you all are criminals in fornt of Indian LAw.

Have the guts then come out in the open

]]> By: Iturkarp http://togetherwebond.wordpress.com/2006/10/04/persistent-dowry-demands/#comment-53 Iturkarp Mon, 09 Oct 2006 18:37:00 +0000 http://togetherwebond.wordpress.com/2006/10/04/persistent-dowry-demands/#comment-53 One easier way to eliminate dowry is to encourage & seek love marraige ( than the traditional way of arranged marriage & pray for "love" to emanate by accident !). Women who are emplyed and can stand on their own legs should not succumb to dowry demands in their marriages as such men are not only cowards but would never afford equality to the women they marry but will definitetly treat like slaves. Thus, blaming dowry after marriage ( by paying the busband's family via Dowry)is so naive, but very sad indeed. One easier way to eliminate dowry is to encourage & seek love marraige ( than the traditional way of arranged marriage & pray for “love” to emanate by accident !). Women who are emplyed and can stand on their own legs should not succumb to dowry demands in their marriages as such men are not only cowards but would never afford equality to the women they marry but will definitetly treat like slaves.

Thus, blaming dowry after marriage ( by paying the busband’s family via Dowry)is so naive, but very sad indeed.

]]> By: Kiran http://togetherwebond.wordpress.com/2006/10/04/persistent-dowry-demands/#comment-36 Kiran Sun, 08 Oct 2006 05:33:11 +0000 http://togetherwebond.wordpress.com/2006/10/04/persistent-dowry-demands/#comment-36 Men do not get killed...they drive women to suicide. You are all confused. :) Men do not get killed…they drive women to suicide.

You are all confused. :)

]]> By: Vidhya M. S http://togetherwebond.wordpress.com/2006/10/04/persistent-dowry-demands/#comment-33 Vidhya M. S Sun, 08 Oct 2006 01:10:47 +0000 http://togetherwebond.wordpress.com/2006/10/04/persistent-dowry-demands/#comment-33 Men get killed and women go scot free....scoff scoff You actually mean women get killed and men go scot free right?? Like Manu Sharma who killed openly and is scot free?? Men get killed and women go scot free….scoff scoff

You actually mean women get killed and men go scot free right?? Like Manu Sharma who killed openly and is scot free??

]]> By: Sumanth http://togetherwebond.wordpress.com/2006/10/04/persistent-dowry-demands/#comment-24 Sumanth Sat, 07 Oct 2006 21:14:42 +0000 http://togetherwebond.wordpress.com/2006/10/04/persistent-dowry-demands/#comment-24 Indian India, 22,000 men are killed or driven to suicide by their wives or in-laws. All these criminal women go scot free. Women want to keep their own salary in their own bank account and would like to spend husband's salary for their perfumes and diamond rings. Indian India, 22,000 men are killed or driven to suicide by their wives or in-laws. All these criminal women go scot free.

Women want to keep their own salary in their own bank account and would like to spend husband’s salary for their perfumes and diamond rings.

]]> By: Manasi http://togetherwebond.wordpress.com/2006/10/04/persistent-dowry-demands/#comment-17 Manasi Thu, 05 Oct 2006 03:39:32 +0000 http://togetherwebond.wordpress.com/2006/10/04/persistent-dowry-demands/#comment-17 My husband wanted me to earn-which was fine. I was happy that I could earn some money for myself. But when I got my first salary my in-laws wanted me to give it to them. When I objected, they said in a joint family the money must be surrendered to them. I had no choice but to give them my full salary and in return they gave me only 1000rs for travelling purposes and nothing else. My entire salary of 24000rs went straigth to their pockets for 8 months. Till today I have not seen that. With this their demands increased. Later they wanted my parents so sponsor my husbands elder sister's wedding. That is when I saw their real colours. My own parents told me thay would not sponsor it. In return my husband threw my out of the house --not even thinking that he is harming our marraige. Today I am separated since 18 months, I wont give him a divorce and his anyway very elder sister is unmarried and shall remain so. What his greedy parents derived from this--till today I dont know. My husband wanted me to earn-which was fine. I was happy that I could earn some money for myself.

But when I got my first salary my in-laws wanted me to give it to them. When I objected, they said in a joint family the money must be surrendered to them.

I had no choice but to give them my full salary and in return they gave me only 1000rs for travelling purposes and nothing else.

My entire salary of 24000rs went straigth to their pockets for 8 months. Till today I have not seen that.

With this their demands increased. Later they wanted my parents so sponsor my husbands elder sister’s wedding. That is when I saw their real colours. My own parents told me thay would not sponsor it. In return my husband threw my out of the house –not even thinking that he is harming our marraige.

Today I am separated since 18 months, I wont give him a divorce and his anyway very elder sister is unmarried and shall remain so.

What his greedy parents derived from this–till today I dont know.

]]> By: Vinita N http://togetherwebond.wordpress.com/2006/10/04/persistent-dowry-demands/#comment-16 Vinita N Thu, 05 Oct 2006 00:16:15 +0000 http://togetherwebond.wordpress.com/2006/10/04/persistent-dowry-demands/#comment-16 My own husband who had an engineers degree did not leave any stone unturned asking for dowry openly and shamelessly. Not only him even his mother use to ask me to demand from my mother the various things that she wanted. My MIL was 65 years old and desired expensive branded perfumes from my parents, wanted the same sarees that I had and the same makeup stuff that I had bought for myself to use. I wonder who was shameless...my MIL or my ex-husband. My own husband who had an engineers degree did not leave any stone unturned asking for dowry openly and shamelessly.

Not only him even his mother use to ask me to demand from my mother the various things that she wanted. My MIL was 65 years old and desired expensive branded perfumes from my parents, wanted the same sarees that I had and the same makeup stuff that I had bought for myself to use.

I wonder who was shameless…my MIL or my ex-husband.

]]> By: Prakruti http://togetherwebond.wordpress.com/2006/10/04/persistent-dowry-demands/#comment-15 Prakruti Wed, 04 Oct 2006 11:44:31 +0000 http://togetherwebond.wordpress.com/2006/10/04/persistent-dowry-demands/#comment-15 Dowry was someting quite different in the days where the father of the girl wished to share with the groom and his family the protector provider role by contributing to the family of his daugher. Most of this was in the form of land or grains. The entire system seems useless now as women do not need any more a protector and provider (as many of them are now financially independent and live in civilised soceities). Its high time that the role of the spouse be redefined (if it does require any definition at all).. and obsolete customs like the dowry are thrown out!! Prakruti Dowry was someting quite different in the days where the father of the girl wished to share with the groom and his family the protector provider role by contributing to the family of his daugher. Most of this was in the form of land or grains. The entire system seems useless now as women do not need any more a protector and provider (as many of them are now financially independent and live in civilised soceities). Its high time that the role of the spouse be redefined (if it does require any definition at all).. and obsolete customs like the dowry are thrown out!!

Prakruti

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