The NRI grooms who come down to India to marry with selfish intentions show big dreams to the young girls only to break them. They come , select a girl, portray a false picture and expect a wedding to be arranged in those famous 14 days.
It is only a beginning., the girl leaves her parents , relatives and entire support system and embarks on a journey to an unknown land without realizing that very soon the big picture will unfold and all hell is going to break loose on her. The rise in the NRI fraudulent marriages is alarming . The problems of women married to and deserted by overseas Indian husbands reveal many causes like dowry and lack of modernization amongst rural brides to respond to the Western way of life. Most NRI men for the greed of dowry call up the girl’s parents and emotionally blackmail them to transfer money to his accounts. The helpless parents have not many options. They do realize that if they fail to meet the demands, the SIL may just file for a divorce in foreign land thus abandon the wife in the middles of no where or worst they may never see their daughter alive again !!!!
But lately there has been some respite to this misfortune, and several resolution offered by MOIA and NCW combined . One of the ways is bring about awareness, so that vulnerable brides to be do not fall prey to such conceiting NRI grooms.
Ministry of Overseas Indian Affairs (MOIA) organized one day National Consultation on problems concerning marriages to overseas Indians. The purpose of the National Consultation was to take into account the perspectives of various stake holders and make use of their practical experience in finalizing a booklet for the guidance of women planning to get married to overseas Indians. The consultation was organized in five different sessions including inaugural session.Inaugural Session (10.00-10.45)The chants of Saraswati Vandana initiated the proceedings of the inaugural session. Chairperson of National Commission for Women (NCW) Dr. Girija Vyas along with Honourable Minister of MOIA Vayalar Ravi and Secretary MOIA S. Krishna Kumar formally inaugurated the Consultation by lighting the auspicious lamp.In his welcome address, Secretary, MOIA S. Krishna Kumar said that the ministry is only two years old and in its short span of functioning, it has taken note of the concern relating to marriages to overseas Indians. He talked about the progress made in this area and discussed about a booklet which is compiled by the ministry to raise awareness among the women and their families. He also highlighted the purpose of this meeting and said that this problem is multicausal and creating awareness about rights, responsibilities and obligations through education, publicity and sensitization is the main emphasis given by the ministry. Sri Kumar introduced about the contents and sessions of the consultation. Sri Kumar welcomed Chairperson, NCW Dr. Girija Vyas and Honourable Minister, MOIA, Sri Vayalar Ravi and all the delegates and media persons who were present in the consultation.
In her inaugural address Chairperson, NCW, Dr Girija Vyas congratulated the ministry for taking this important initiative. She said that the Indian Diaspora is very strong and they have links with India for many reasons, important one of which is marriage. She emphasized that women should not be treated as an object or a thing but as a human being. She said that for creating awareness among the people we should move towards the villages and gave the slogan ‘chalo gaon ki ore’. She congratulated the honourable Supreme Court for the judgment on the ‘compulsory registration of marriages’ and said that this will help in tackling the cases of the fraudulent marriage. She mentioned few of the issues related to marriages to Overseas Indians which are:
1. Cultural shock
2. Generation gap
4. Harassment after marriage
5. Concealment of earlier marriage(s)
6. Lack of social security on foreign soil etc.
She suggested an extensive awareness programme to counter all these problems. While talking about the booklet published by the ministry, she suggested that some important judgments by various courts relating to the marriages should be included in this booklet which will help in the awareness generation. She also advised the ministry for keeping a database on such marriages and verifying it with different agencies with the help of Ministry of External Affairs. Our missions abroad should also help in these issues. Besides, foreign embassies and consulates in India can also be involved in this process. She emphasized the need of counseling in such cases and said that MOIA should create a counseling center where all the relevant information can be accessed.