But sometimes there are different things planned for us by the Lord up there. Some marriages come to an end ….a very bitter tragic end. Whether we like it or no we must accept it. The reasons could be many….maybe we are settling our debts from the last birth or maybe we are the Lord’s chosen ones because he is judging us to see how we over come this crisis or maybe he tosses turbulent situations at us so that we emerge stronger and wiser.
I yet feel even after separation some dignity should be maintained by both in order to move on graciously in life and I practice the same. I don’t like to talk about my bitter experience by criticizing, deriding and stating personal things about my separated spouse. Even I can go on and on about my sob sob story!! But what is the use of that? I see several spaces where people mention such personal bitter things about their failed relationship and marriage life it really appalls me. It is so immature and childish. What is the rationale behind that? Whatever happened to ‘let bygones be bygones’ or rather some people like to ‘wash dirty linen in public’.
Passer bys will read their personal things on their website and move on. Is there any purpose served? Whatever little dignity could have been saved and earned is washed out totally. Ok I can understand that some want to give vent to their side of pent up feelings but definitely it can be done with some poise and refinement and thus maintain some respect and sanctity to the once relationship called ‘marriage’.
I’ve put things behind me since I don’t have much choice but I thank God all the time that I came out of the situation alive (infact thank God everyday for it) and most important sensibility intact.
Though the big “why” always bothers me till date, as to why did this separation happened to me? Why I could not have a normal married life? Why I could not be happily married? But I just console myself that I must have done something erroneous in my last birth as am paying for it now. I thank my Lord that I have wonderful parents and friends who have love me unconditionally and been there for me. I cannot thank them enough ever.
I still can’t believe that this happened to me as my previous-naive-blissfully-ignorant attitude was that bad things such as ‘marriage turning sour’ cannot happen to me…they happen to others only…until thunder struck and I realized harshly that I am the “others” in this lifetime. The chosen one!!!
“ they lived happily ever after” came crashing down all around me.
We all have some principles in life; it’s easy to abide by them when times are good. But the real testing of abiding by our set principles and values is during turbulent times of trial. How we sail through them with our set principles in place , is what is crucial to me to move on in life with my conscious clear.