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‘International Day for Elimination of Violence against Women’ November 25, 2006

Filed under: Dowry Menace,Gender Prejudice,Legal Issues,Matrimonial Conflicts — togetherwebond @ 11:11 am

The following article(by Vasundhara Sanger,TOI) says it all with thorough analysis, facts and specifics in place, that even urban, educated and financially independent women also endure domestic violence.

Why do they hide it? Though some of us already know why, others may like to know the rationale behind women refusing to acknowledge that they are victims of domestic violence too.

Today November 25th is the ‘International Day for Elimination of Violence against Women.’ Lets come together and pledge that we will not endure violence anymore, nor will let anyone else endure it and will spread the word and awareness of DV Act to everyone. Lets eradicate domestic violence and thrive to bring about harmony in marriages!!!

Independent women too are victims of domestic violence (by Vasundhara Sanger,TOI)

MUMBAI: The recent expose by a local newspaper in Mumbai on the alleged beating of Shweta Mahajan, a pilot married to Rahul Mahajan, has opened a fresh debate on the issues of domestic violence. It also reinforces the view that violence do exist in the upper strata of society. The couple, however, has denied any ripple in their marriage.

About a decade ago, a documentary film Char Diwari by Rinki Bhattacharya, a victim of domestic violence herself, showed how educated and financially independent women suffered physical and mental abuse at the hands of their husbands. Some of them did not have the courage to either separate from them or seek divorce.

It exposed the myth that violence exist only in the lower strata of society. Rinki Bhattacharya is the daughter of the legendary filmmaker Bimal Roy of Do Beegha Zameen and Devdas fame.

The film exposed how wives in affluent homes were beaten up by educated men from liberal backgrounds. It also explored the isolation and terror of women trapped in violent marriages and the social response to domestic violence. The film chronicled the saga of four gutsy women, who resolved to put an end to the violence and reinvented to start a new life.

Women’s organisations all over the world observe November 25 as the ‘International Day for Elimination of Violence against Women.’ This year, in India women’s groups have reasons to celebrate because Parliament has enacted a law to protect women against domestic violence, which also include live-in relationships.

According to activists, the recent Act to protect women against domestic violence will make people aware that there is a law. And that itself will serve as deterrent. Besides, women will begin to assert more. However, Gandhian and social worker Dr G.G Parikh of Yusuf Meherally Centre in Mumbai thinks that a law alone cannot act as a deterrent. “Violence is part of human nature and a law alone cannot change human nature. It’s the cultural thinking and education that is necessary for transformation,” he said.

Consulting physiotherapist and Counsellor Dr Minnu Bhonsle says whether the law will be a deterrent depends on if a battered woman files an FIR and pursue the case. In most domestic violence cases, women consciously cloak it.
Dr. Parikh says, “Violence in high society was always there, but it was rarely noticed, partly because of our pro-high society prejudice and partly because the upper strata hide it. In the lower strata, we expect them to behave in that manner. Women, however, remain vulnerable in our society.”

The corrective measure will be to work on the male right from the time when he is a child, to bring about an attitudinal change. “We take it for granted that men are like that. It is only Mahatma Gandhi who had urged to bring about a change both, in the victim and the oppressor; only then the change will be sustainable. This lesson, which we learnt during the freedom movement, has been forgotten,” laments the 82-year old doctor.

It may be recalled that Rahul was booked under the Narcotics Drugs and Psychotropic Substances Act and acts relating to destruction of evidence after taking an overdose of drugs in June this year.

However, Dr Parikh says though it could be one of the reasons, by and large he had not noticed that only drug abusers are more violent.

Harish Sadani of the Men against Violence and Abuse (MAVA) feels that gender issues are seen as women’s issues. “If men are part of a problem, empowering women to fight violence and injustice is not enough. When it comes to decision-making, a woman still looks to her husband for support. It is crucial to involve men in gender issues.”

Reasons for domestic violence

Violence against women is one of the most widespread violations of women’s human rights around the world. If studies conducted by various organisations are to be believed, it’s assuming epidemic proportions.

“Youngsters today are grappling with so many issues. Identity is one of them. Due to the male dominated attitude (masculinity and aggressiveness) and growth of nuclear families, peer pressure, job growth and competition, they are unable to deal with anger. The younger generation is at the crossroads and is facing dilemma,” says Sadani, who recently organised an anger management workshop for men in Pune.

Lawyer Ketki Jayakar, who practices at the Bandra family court said, “The reason for such high incidence of violence against women is the dearth of role models.” However, she admits that there has been a change in attitude. “Media is aggressively reporting on the issue of violence against women. There has been a gradual shift.” She also feels that the joint family systems did the work of shock absorbers, and elders in the family managed to drill sense into the warring couples. With the nuclear family prevalent in modern India that vestige of hope to save marriage and prevent abuse is no more.

There are multiple reasons for high incidents of domestic violence. One could be that the man has seen violent behaviour in his own family. “Especially, in a love marriage, a woman does not want to be viewed in retrospect as someone who made a mistake. The man must have seen his mom’s submissive behaviour and imbibed the fact that women are doormats,” explains Dr Bhonsle.

It could also be that the person actually has pathological disorder and has been the only child, who got away with tantrums and didn’t learn the functional ways of expressing anger. “Pathological disorders need medication and only counselling won’t help. They go through maniac phases. Sometimes the man is very violent and at times he will repent and apologise for his behaviour (bi-polar disorder). The woman also goes through these swings, along with him. When he is violent she wants to leave him; when apologetic, she forgives him. When there is drinking, the chances of engaging in violent behaviour increases,” says Bhonsle.

If there’s a child, he suffers because of the long drawn custody battle. If the man feels remorse, he suffers due to guilt. For a woman, fighting a divorce suit is expensive. At the end she breaks down, as court cases take time. In the beginning people support her, but slowly that supports wanes. The trauma takes a toll on her body,” says Ketki.

Why women protect violent husbands?

“A wedding in affluent families takes place with great fanfare. If the marriage does not work, the woman feels she would be seen as a failure. So she decides to cloak the abuse. Besides, people will make her ask herself if she was instrumental in breaking the marriage.”

Another reason could be the clout that the husband’s family may wield. According to media reports, Shweta Mahajan has been grounded and there is an enquiry for a lapse she had made in landing the aircraft last week.

Many highly educated and financially independent women have an issue with their own image. They want to be viewed as a “very together” in a relationship (Madhur Bhandarkar’s film Page 3 showed such instances). Also, at one point of time, some of them may have counselled a friend on a bad marriage. Now, they feel humiliated at being in the same boat, says Dr Bhonsle.

“Couples from high society have approached us for counselling, but the woman sits with a straight face, as if she did not want to walk out of the marriage. It is very demeaning for her to seek help. They do not even like if we empathise with them. So, she emotionally distances herself. This is because such people have cultivated a distorted belief that they are resolved persons,” Dr Bhonsle added.

Ketki thinks to save a marriage and prevent domestic abuse a woman is her own master. “Build your self esteem and be physically fit. Physical fitness is a must, so eat well, “says the seasoned lawyer.

To prevent a marriage from breaking, Bhonsle says they have made breakthrough. “We help them identify ‘areas of conflict’ and have some kind of emotional and geographical lines within the four walls of the house. They learn to co-exist. Technically, such a marriage is saved, but the emotional intimacy ends. The love is lost. In her opinion, the crucial factors in a healthy marriage are the three Cs- care, commitment, and communication. She also advises to remove what she terms ‘contaminants’. These are personality traits, which pollute the relationship.

Reverence for life

What pains Ketki is the fact that there is no reverence for life. “We do not respect life of people involved in domestic issues. We do not respect lives of couple’s old parents. In their twilight years, the parents get dragged into the turmoil of their children’s marriage. There is a need to be humane and to empathise with them,” she says.

What the studies on women say

A WHO report called ‘The Women’s Health and Domestic Violence against Women’ says one in six women worldwide suffers domestic violence. Women suffer broken bones, bruises, burns, cracked skulls, dislocated jaws, rape and of course terror. Domestic violence remains largely hidden as many women suffer silently. Physically or sexually abused women were more likely to suffer longer term health problems, including depression. Often the woman herself believes that the man is justified in beating her.

The second study by Oxfam (UK based charity) says that the problem is much worse in South Asia, where as many as one in every two women face domestic violence.

All wife beaters believe in male domination. These men have certain rules and regulations that women should follow, and if the women don’t follow them, they are subjected to violence or verbal abuse.

Another type of man hits out in a fit of anger or in an alcoholic stupor when he doesn’t get what he wants from the woman, or because she does not give him ‘respect’. These types of men often repent temporarily.

There is an even more dangerous kind of wife-beater. He does not believe in any moral or social conventions. He believes that the woman is his property and that he can do anything he likes with her. He will gratify any of his perverted, violent and sexual desires without any regard for the woman’s safety.

Some worldwide facts

Japan: 796 women surveyed in 1993 – 59% are reported to be physically abused by their partner
India: 6902 men surveyed – 45% of married men acknowledged physically abusing their wives
Uganda: Representative samples of women – 41% women admitted that their partners have beaten them or physically harmed them.

(The findings are from a survey conducted by the UNICEF)

By Vidhya M.S.

 

Showers of Joy November 23, 2006

Filed under: Poems — togetherwebond @ 10:36 am

Infused with joy,
I call upon the cloud above
That floats around
Holding all my dreams inside it.
I stretch out my hand
Asking it to shower all that it can,
My hopes, my dreams,
Fused with blesings from the above,
Making them raindrops.
Letting me touch each drop with joy
Multiplying each moment
And inviting the whole universe
To see me celebrate my life.
Here comes the rain….
Rushing a million raindrops to my heart,
And each one becomes a diamond
That radiates life all around.

By Vishalakshi

 

My anecdote November 22, 2006

That fateful month (at that time I thought it was the best time of my life), when an alliance came for me. My parents were then only to keen to marry me and see me settled in life. They did some research on the boys family through common friends and were satisfied with the results. By then I had completed my masters and was open to meeting with this person, to check out if we clicked. Well he came down from USA(ahh…yes the US of A) for 2 weeks. We met, dated a few times and I can plainly say that our thoughts matched. He was educated and so was I and I didn’t have any other expectations or fancies. We got engaged and next year married again within those famous 14 days. My parents arranged everything with no qualms. (today when I look back I wonder why my parents so voluntarily arranged everything. Okay, they were being generous but did not the boys side have any onus to take some responsibility too after all was he not their child just the way I was my parents child? Oh yes…how can I forget, we are girls side !!!

I reached USA and was taken to our apartment. The first few months passed by peacefully and we very much enjoying our honeymooning phase. Shall I call this the silence before the storm? Then came the expectations. He wanted $25000 from my parents that too to be transferred to his account immediately. Initially I did not comprehend why? I was worried that something was wrong, that he was some of serious trouble and therefore he was in dire need of finances. He did not say anything. He wanted the money and asked me to bring it. Obviously my parents did not have $25000 to give away and neither was I going to request my parents. I coaxed him further to get to the bottom of this. It was worrying him no end. Though my husband refused to tell me why he needed the money, I then suggested to him that he use his savings. He had a comfortable 6 digit salary and enough savings from his years of work experience in USA. That was when I received my first slap for this suggestion. And more slaps complete with abuses followed.

My world came to a stand still.

I went into mourning for several weeks. Loathed to get up in the morning because to me sleep was a get away from the reality. Went early to bed to avoid him. He kept demanding it aggressively now and I kept refusing it until I would get a valid explanation from him. He would slap me, punch me and assault me. I had nowhere to go. But one question still haunted me “why did he need $25000?” I had no one to talk to either. Our landline was disconnected and so was my internet connection. Obviously I had no money now and was completely at his mercy. In his absence I use to agonize, think to no end and ask whys. The word ‘dowry’ striked me once and I denied the thought. A guy who has 6 digit salary, what would he do with a mere $25000. It did not make sense to me. But that was the only answer that kept coming back to me.

I took a bus once to go to the Indian market, sold a pair of gold bangles that my parents had gifted me to get some money for myself. The following week I found out I was pregnant and informed him the same. He was absolutely unhappy. I requested him to take me to the doctor and he said he had no money to spend on an unwanted child. He convinced and threatened me that if I don’t have an abortion done he would tell my parents the truth about our marriage. I thought the news of the child would mellow him but it only got worst. He got more violent and cohesive with his demands. With the stress, the tensions, his sadistic behavior, his violence, his threats, his aggressiveness, his abuse I had no choice.

One night when I was asleep, excruciating pain in my left ear awakened me. I put my hand over it to and felt something wet. I saw my husband next to me, staring at me. I hurried to the bathroom to see what was going on with my ear and as I faced the mirror I saw my ear bleeding and blood pouring down my neck. For the first few seconds everything went blank before my eyes. I felt nothing. I was jolted to my senses ruthlessly when my husband was pulling my hair and almost ready to bang into the door. He kept asking for the $25000, threatening me and abusing me. Most part of the night I was thrown from one corner to another corner. I begged him to stop, for the sake of humanity to stop. He asked me point blank for the money. To safe myself, I offered to call my parents so that I could make the request to them. He happily obliged and I made the call. My parents knew something was wrong but I did not care now. Sooner or later they would know and they would be glad to have their daughter back alive (atleast).

After the call, he went of to sleep as if nothing had happened. Once again I felt the excruciating pain on my ear and I realized that it he who had pulled the earrings off my ear while I was asleep—and that lead to the bleeding.

The man that I had married, the promises we exchanged to spend a lifetime, to protect each other, would attack me viciously when I would be asleep!! I mean what kind of a human being thinks of this or does this? Till date I cannot fathom what was he thinking when he attacked me this way or how such a thought can cross any human beings mind.

I waited for the sun to rise. It was the longest wait of my life. He went to work as if nothing had happened. That was the last I saw of my educated civilized husband who worked in an IT company in USA.

I packed some of my basic things, called for a cab( oh yes little did I ever know that my mother would come to my timely rescue—her gifted bangles to me) and once gain back to the Indian market, sold some more jewelry of my parents, enough to buy me a ticket back home. To the airport and waited for the flight.

Once in India, I directly went to my parents’ house and told them all, just the way it was, the whole thing. My father was the strongest. We consulted a lawyer and filed the appropriate cases on him. . His parents were livid with rage when they had to appear in court. They had no remorse or any guilt at their sons doing or actions. To me it felt that they were rather unhappy that they did not get their $25000.

He still has not retuned back to India. It has been years. Initially he called me with his usual threats that he will take me to task for daring to file the case on him. The criminal cases are still in court and will remain there and I will see to it they remain there. Today I have my own life, happy, I work, I earn and I am free. I can travel to any country. Unlike him—that irritates him know no end that his freedom is restricted. I pay my lawyers regularly, thinking that they are my kids on whom I spend my money on(if I had one I would have spent on him/her right?) who by the way reluctantly accept any, and have clearly expressed my intentions to them. He needs to got to jail the minute he lands here. The fear of this will never make him return to his home country–which is fine by me too. If he is innocent then he is welcome to come and fight for it. I want justice. I WILL get justice

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Currently he is a member of a disreputable immoral mens group that exists here and Usa too, who claim to be on a rampage to save the Indian marriage and culture. Their rantings and sadistic intentions are well known to everyone. Obviously this is only a farce, a charade by them and the actual motto of this group is to abolish dowry laws and domestic violence laws that hinders their freedom of speech, plans, action and materialistic demands.

I and many others who have been through this trauma and ordeal we will get justice in this lifetime. Recently the DV act came into existence. Surely it will give many woman solace and some respite. Spread the word, as most rural women do not even know about it.

A survivor – A woman

 

Another Wife Beater Exposed November 20, 2006

Filed under: Legal Issues,Matrimonial Conflicts — togetherwebond @ 11:10 am

In the most shocking news Rahul Mahajan has turned out to be a wife beater. It has been only 3 months since they were married and this is the pathetic scenario. Ofcourse, this is not news to many who have been through the same and experienced the same trauma.

Most husbands who have a very good image in society, educated, suave, when exposed as wife beaters, it is very incomprehensible to digest this fact. They beat their wives in a fit of rage mercilessly and then later offer apologies and explanations. But the irreversible damage has already been done.

Generally women are too embarrassed to admit that they are victims of domestic violence despite of their education & elite background they come from. They refuse to acknowledge it lest it taints their status/reputation.

It took Shweta 3 whole months to expose him and come out with the truth. This is her dismal plight. It is not easy for an educated, a woman who has a successful career to accept this appalling fact in the open–that she too is a victim of domestic violence.

Read the following link and see the pictures of Shweta, those bruises, those dark circles, those cut lips and those sorrowful eyes.

Rahul Mahajan’s wife Shweta Singh is on the verge of ending their two-and-a-half month old marriage because of relentless “physical and verbal abuse” by her husband, a source close to the family told MiD DAY.Rahul and Shweta were married on August 29, when the Mahajans had barely recovered from the events of the previous five months.In April, Pramod Mahajan was shot dead by his brother Pravin. In June, Mahajan’s secretary Bibek Moitra died after he allegedly overdosed on drugs while he was with Rahul.The latest in a series of assaults on Shweta occurred last Wednesday, leaving her with a cut lip, a bruised arm, a sore back — and the realization that she had to get out of the marriage.The incident took place in a car during Rahul’s visit to Delhi last week. To add to Shweta’s humiliation, the beating took place in the presence of two of Rahul’s friends. The source said, Rahul “hit Shweta repeatedly… he caught her by the hair, slapped her on the face, banging her head against the seat. Once, she was hunched over, he kept hitting her on the back with his fists.”The source said Rahul abused and threatened Shweta and her family throughout, and “vowed” to destroy them.Apparently, Rahul was full of remorse later, but even this had a manic edge. He told Shweta to ‘‘take a hammer and finish him off’’. Terrified, Shweta asked him to stay away from her. Shweta’s mother intervened, and Rahul left for Mumbai, sources said.

The pattern was clear well before Rahul’s last attack. Only three weeks ago, after the couple had a disagreement over Rahul’s plans for the future, ‘‘he hit Shweta very hard’’. The blow left a big bruise on Shweta’s thigh. She flew back to Delhi, afraid of ‘‘something worse happening to her’’ because the couple lives alone in Mumbai.

Early blows
Shweta got to see the violent side of Rahul very early in the marriage. Her ordeal had begun almost as soon as the couple came back after their honeymoon in Seychelles in mid-September.

Upon their return, the couple visited Tirupati and stayed in a hotel, where a trivial matter caused Rahul to lose his temper. The source said Rahul began ‘‘hurling abuses at Shweta, calling her a wh**e and accusing her of having destroyed his life. He called her a Vish Kanya, all the while throwing things.’’ A friend of theirs was in the next room and heard everything.

Shweta was so traumatised after this incident that she couldn’t stop shaking for hours.

After every assault, there were apologies and explanations, said sources. Rahul would tell her that he had an ‘‘anger management’’ problem and that he owed his temper to his ‘‘upbringing and his genes’’.

Shweta, a qualified pilot, is the daughter of a retired brigadier. She grew up in a very protected, fairly conservative environment. Given the controversies surrounding Rahul, Shweta’s father wasn’t very keen that she marry him, say sources, but Rahul’s persistence seems to have influenced her mother.

‘‘He would beg Shweta to marry him and constantly request her mother to convince her,’’ said sources. The last call that Rahul made on the night Bibek Moitra died was to Shweta.

But things have changed dramatically since, transforming the once bubbly, girlish, Shweta to a woman who wears a permanently haunted look.

According to sources, she has been trying to convince Rahul to agree to a ‘‘quiet separation’’.

But Rahul isn’t willing — such a move could adversely affect his political plans and the ongoing court case on drugs charges. But the couple is, for all practical purposes, separated. Shweta refuses to go back to Rahul’s Mumbai flat and lives in Delhi under the constant watch of her mother.

By PurpleA

 

Low Standards November 18, 2006

Filed under: Reflections — togetherwebond @ 6:43 am
The author of The Vagina Monologues, Eve Ensler writes in the introduction of her book Insecure At Last :

“My dreams were limited, simple. All I wanted was to grow up not be hit or molested. I lived as a survivor. Happy every day not to be screamed at, ridiculed, beaten, terrorized, or thrown out. I did not care about a career. I did not think what kind of person might be right for me. It was all about what was not happening, all about the pain stopping, all about safety, security. I wanted a man or woman who would not hit me. This, as you can imagine, is not the greatest prerequisite for a relationship. Not a very high standard. And, it’s broad. And, to be honest, until you have gone back and purged and transformed that initial violation, it is impossible not to keep being attracted to what you were trying to escape”

While she says this in context of her affluent childhood and a physically violent father, it translates fairly easily to any abusive relationship that leaves deep scars in its wake. When men I date ask me what I am looking for in a relationship my most immediate and heartfelt response is “A decent, honest and normal man”.

The best compliment I can pay a man is “I like you as much as I do because you are decent and normal” The response I get to that most often is “And that is all ?” I understand their incredulity and disappointment in that I could not recognize anything else they may have had to offer, that I was reducing their multifaceted entity to such basics. This parallels Ensler’s idea that for a man or woman to not hit her once defined relationship nirvana – it is all about context.

Some have argued those are very broad categories and highly subjective qualities. To me there is nothing ambiguous about the three key things I seek – they are as fundamental as the air I need to breathe. It also reflects what I missed most in my marriage and the abortive pseudo-relationships since. When what most people would take for granted has been impossible to come by in your own life, you set yourself to an abnormally and alarmingly low standard, expect too little from a relationship.

It is so much sadder if you once hoped and desired for more and if you are still capable of offering to your partner a million times more than you want from them. If you do indeed get into an unequal relationship because the scars from the past had not healed to where you were able to articulate your real needs, somewhere down the road the inequity will start to hurt – maybe even more than the wounds that drove you there.

By Heartcrossings – http://heartcrossings.blogspot.com/

 

Returning Natives November 14, 2006

Filed under: Entertainment,Reflections — togetherwebond @ 7:36 am

The present day desi in the US returning to India is completely unlike the NRIs of the 80s vintage and earlier on their biennial pilgrimages. The whole purpose of their visits was to impress upon the less fortunate natives the true state of their material and physical well being. Gifts would be given liberally, drawing rooms would be chock full of relatives listening enraptured to the stories their fantastic lifestyles abroad.

Their teen-aged children could at best understand their mother tongue and lisp charmingly when pushed to speak it. Grandmothers and aunts cooed and fawned at how precious they sounded and made sure that they were stocked up on toilet paper even if the nearest store that carried it was at the other end of town. These were cyclically returning natives who reinforced to themselves and those that they deigned to visit with that they were glad to be out of the rat hole known as desh. A mini army came together from in and around town to see these oh-so-fortunate prodigals off at the airport.

Times have changed. More importantly perhaps India has and along with that the attitudes of desis home and abroad. Now it would be the ultimate social faux pas for an US desi to come home and throw a fit about the dust, grime, government office red tape and open man holes. They know better than to do that. Instead they will tell their relatives in Bangalore, Hyderabad and Pune that India as good as if not better than the US in most ways. They love indeed lust for street food, don’t need to tote Evian around and their kids speak their language almost flawlesslessy.

Thanks to rampant piracy in software and electronic goods, desis in India own cooler, hipper gizmos for a whole lot cheaper. Their cellphones are to die for and the posh schools that their kids attend are better than the best private schools in the US. In summary, the country mouse is getting a better bang for the buck than the town mouse and the town mouse would come to nest in the country in a heartbeat.

Unlike the desis of yore who landed in JFK feeling schadenfreude and got together with other desi friends over the weekend to recount vignettes from the trip to India to disperese that feeling more widely, the present day desi wonders if he is better served by not getting into the plane to America.
There is little left to be given to the well heeled friends and relatives in India whose business trips take them around the world all the time. There are no tall tales to tell of the dishy blondes that are so easy to pick up at bars, of the money to be made in day trading or the cross country road trips. The all desi weekend “parties” in burbs are a joke to those who have far more eclectic social lives. Everyone’s been there and done that. The captive audiences cheer led by the dowager grand-aunt are a relic of the past – that aunt is now likely vacationing in Madrid with her youngest daughter.

The draw of America to the mainstream desi used to be the lifestyle they could neither afford nor replicate in India. They basked in the envy of the hoards that came to see them off at Santa Cruz, snickering at the thought of their socialite aunt primping for her kitty parties with Yardley cologne from Wal-Mart they just gave her. It was a good place to be in. Today gift shopping is painful and expensive business – a Navajo Indian sun-catcher from that Alaskan cruise may be slightly interesting but Ralph Lauren shirt picked up from Marshall’s will be met with much disdain and derision.

It is not surprising therefore that the desis in US want to come home to roost the minute they get their US passport. No one who is anyone back home cares about their miserable suburban town home, $130k a year job and the fully paid off Acura 2.5TL. For all that they are not riding the wave of irrational exuberance that is India today- the technology is edgier, more patents are being filed than ever, they get to feel good about themselves by volunteering for the causes of the disenfranchised. India’s unique selling proposition today is the ability to combine a high-rolling lifestyle with abundant opportunities to stack up on good karma. It strikes a deeply resonant chord with the expat desi.
There is a heart and soul about India that expats are finding easier to sense in the context of an easy to replicate NRI lifestyle complete with obscene compensation packages and a white hot club scene. Its never been easier to claim their longing for family and homeland is more than they can bear – if only the date for the all important citizenship interview came around sooner to plug their bleeding hearts.

By Heart Crossings – http://heartcrossings.blogspot.com/

 

Sahara Charity Ball

Filed under: Entertainment — togetherwebond @ 7:23 am

SAHARA CHARITY BALL

Fashion Show Featuring

JJ Valaya

Sponsored by Ziba Beauty

Coordinated & Organized by Saffron International

Live Auction with…

Exotic Getaways, Sporting events

Vacation Homes and much much more…!

Join us at the Annual SAHARA Event on Nov 18th 2006 — from 7pm to 1am

for Cocktails and Dinner at

The WESTIN LAX

5400 W. Century Blvd, Los Angeles, CA 90045

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Exhibition of JJ Valaya and vendors from India on Sunday Nov 19th 2006 11am to 5pm

at SHERATON Cerritos Hotel

 Do visit our exclusive stalls

Exquisite Jewellery by Motiwala

Designer Collection by Renu Tandon

Collection from Saffron International

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and live orchestra, food and much much more.

To be part of the event contact the SAHARA office. Limited passes.