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An Egalitarian society by DV ACT. November 3, 2006

Filed under: Gender Prejudice,Legal Issues,Matrimonial Conflicts — togetherwebond @ 9:56 am

In the past few days a lot has been written about the Domestic Violence Act that has come into existence only a few day back , the contents of it explained, how it will benefit and safeguard the life of women from any kind of violence. This would be the crucial move that will break the chains binding them to the selfish motives of men and remove the boulders crushing them down under men’s big egos

Majority of the people both men and women have welcomed this DV act with open arms because they realize that it is for the betterment of the family structure as a whole and will only make every human being respect and treat each other with demureness and will eventually help create an egalitarian society.

While surfing the internet I came across this interesting article written by Chandrima S. Bhattacharya .

This article explores or questions the actions of those people who have protested against the DV Act . Obviously the ones who are protesting may have their own hidden vested interests and insecurities. She has beautifully explained the different grinds the women go through in their daily life and has questioned if they would classify under routine torture. Obviously as she has appropriately said that these daily occurrences never go reported and will never also.

It is all about the power…. the power to dominate, the power to control, the power to assert, the power to order, the power dictate ….and NOW ……the fear to loose the power or rather the illicit power that took it’s last painful gasp on the historical birth of the DV Act. They have lost their illicit powers. That’s what this is about and that is what is making certain unscrupulous sections of the society timorous.

Well too bad….times are changing for the better much better and parivartan sansar ka niyam hai .Good times lie ahead.

The article of Chandrima S. Bhattacharya that appeared in the Telegraph

What are men scared of?

The first arrest has been made under the domestic violence act. But last week, with the act barely out of Parliament, a group of men went slightly wild. To protect the hallowed institution from the threat of “legalised terrorism” by women, they launched a protest group called Save the Indian Family. When anyone who has been in touch with contemporary Indian culture knows that nothing can save the Indian family since Rakhi Sawant burst onto the scene and I will not dwell on the word “burst” in this context.A democracy has to allow for all sorts of phenomena and their expression: Rakhi Sawant, Gandhiji T-shirts following his rehabilitation through a film starring a bomb blast accused, the possibility of Navjot Singh Sidhu printing his complete works… So why should men who feel that all women are potentially terrorists be stopped from holding their protest march?But I was just wondering what made the men feel so threatened. There doesn’t seem to be much reason.

India is the world capital of legislation — it loves to pass acts that will never be implemented. Otherwise the act banning child labour would never have been passed. Without children in our homes, tea stalls, factories and red light areas, the economy will crumble and all foreign journalists will go away.

The domestic violence act is very welcome and it will be a shot in the arm for many women, but I have a feeling that many more will never know about it. I know a young woman who works as a cook at several houses. She has two children. She was a bright student and her parents — her father is a watchman — had high hopes for her.

But she met a dashing young man one day, the chief mason at a nearby building under construction, and fell in love. True, he drank, but love is a great cure for alcohol. So she gave up school to watch him slap the cement on the freshly-laid bricks and never was watching paint dry so much fun. She married him.

Now he doesn’t work, drinks and drinks and sometimes takes a break to beat her up. The women who read the papers would probably have turned to the law enforcement agencies in her situation, but it is unlikely that she will.

The act, the men said, brought into being by “modern sadists” and “modern Surpanakhas”, would encourage terrorist activity by women. Are the men worried about this girl?

The men can also take heart from the areas covered by the act. It tries to map the crucial areas of torture — marital rape and sexual, physical, verbal and economic violence — and in that it is generous. But it leaves out some notoriously unspoken facts about the tortures of living with a man. They can lead to slow death for the woman.

What happens when every day, after a hectic time at the office, the woman comes and sees the floor strewn with empty plastic bottles, which means that not only she has to put them back, but also fill them with filtered water? Then the wait at the filter? Then to find that an empty pizza box is lying on the bed? To find that the fan had not been switched off, though he left home later and came back earlier? That the clothes are all to be folded, while he watches the recap of how India lost because they played Dhoni at number six? To feel too tired by the end of dinner to give in to his wish — of watching a movie together? To have to scream at him, though that’s not how it should have been at all? Day after day after day?

What is the name of this torture? The Daily Grind? The Lazy Mind? The Thick Hind? Whatever it is, it is again unlikely that many women, though living through this, will report to the police the details of their domestic lives.

Then what are the men so scared of?

I think the secret is that it takes very little to make men feel scared. Anything that poses a threat to their control of the world makes them tremble. Even the thought of a threat makes them scared. Sometimes they invent the scare, a great big bogey, from nothing, just to assert themselves. Like George Bush Jr. and the Weapons of Mass Destruction.

It is probably no coincidence that the men who formed the society see the women as “terrorists”, “modern sadists” and “modern Surpanakhas”. They could be talking about Weapons of Mass Destruction too.


12 Responses to “An Egalitarian society by DV ACT.”

  1. Kiran Says:

    Power to loose their control. What else is left with some these MCPs who now will loose their patent trait.

    And the ones who are creating a ruckus can take a hike and get lost. Forever will be better.

    Nevetheless the change is welcome.

  2. Vidhya M.S. Says:

    It is a case of sour grapes. Loosing their power is killing them and making them run for cover. Watch the fun.

  3. Sumanth Says:

    Good luck ladies.
    SIF is India’s most fastest growing self help group covering men’s rights. Half of our members are women.
    We are not scared. We are amused.

  4. Ash Says:

    A recent charity event for the upliftment of rural women held in New York right after Diwali saw huge success. The who’s who of town was there to be part of the event. Minimum advertising, no internet converage nothing.

    The catch: Personal invitations were sent out to make the event special and private and custom made. Entry only by invitation.
    To the point. A entertaining event was put together and big shots, business tycoons of Manhatten were there to mark their presence.
    You know how much was collected. More than 10 million. Hellooooooo dollars huh???

    I wonder and u wonder too, can you fathom if the additional entry tickets were put on sale what could the collection have been.
    But the goal was not 20 million. The goal was to make everyone feel special that their contribution was going to make a difference in someones life in a big way!!!.

  5. Ash Says:


    Is that not great??

  6. Sumanth Says:

    That 10 Million will not be enough for a couple of feminist conferences in 5-Star Hotels in India.

  7. Ash Says:

    You’re kidding me right??

  8. Swarup Sarkar Says:

    (sexually deprived rants-these vulgar comments will not be up)

  9. Raj Says:

    Anyone here objects to making this law gender neutral? If so, why? (Logical reasons only. rants will only waste everyone’s time).

  10. Raj Says:

    What? not a single objection! So all ye women agree that the DV act should be gender neutral? heavens be praised. feminism is dead!

  11. A woman Says:

    We are now busy. Soon another bill is going to be passed where you men will fear to come to work as well.

    Till then sit here and play on the free playground or do some other timepass

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